Something I rarely share… re-write your life story

If you’re a regular reader of my emails or blogs, you know that I share a ton about the importance of having the right mindset.

I talk a lot about overcoming limiting beliefs, crushing self-doubt and building self-confidence.

Oftentimes people are looking for three quick steps to better time management or productivity. And I give you that, too. But here’s the truth: mindset is going to be the foundation for all your success.

It’s like building a house, and mindset is your foundation. Strengthening skills like improving productivity is like building the upstairs rooms of your house. You absolutely need to have the upstairs rooms. But if you don’t have your foundation, the rest crumbles.

And believe me, I know.

I’ve built plenty of upstairs rooms, metaphorically speaking. I have studied, taught and implemented proven processes for goal-setting, project management and productivity. But when I practiced these skills without having a solid foundation, I crashed.

The truth is that for years I lived with a crack in my foundation.

I got kind of a hard kick at a young age when I experienced a traumatic loss in my life – the death of my mother.

Mom died when I was 9 years old. It was as if my life suddenly went from living color to black and white. The blissful childhood I knew was finished. Over the next several years I slid into a tailspin of grief, loneliness and fear. Within two years, I fell into suicidal depression, substance abuse and a sense of loss that followed me well into adulthood.

Why am I telling you this? Because I had a crack in my foundation that I needed to repair before I could have the life I wanted.

What started as an 11-year-old cry for help, eventually developed into habitual thought patterns of how bad life was. And these habitual thought patterns evolved into deeply rooted limiting beliefs.

For years I cried out, “why God, why?” And without fully realizing it, my default thinking was to blame everything around me for anything bad thing that happened.

“Life’s not fair,” became my anthem.

I blamed circumstances for my lack of success. I envied those around me for having it “so much  easier.” If I didn’t get the promotion, or if business didn’t go the way I wanted, or I didn’t have the relationships I wanted, it was someone or something else’s fault. I saw myself as helpless.

And for years, things stayed the same.

Until one day I saw that my own sense of victimness was keeping me from experiencing everything I was trying to achieve.

In my life’s journey, I was fortunate to have been handed a set of tools to re-build my foundation. In my painstaking search for relief from depression and alcohol abuse, I studied psychology, practiced spiritual principles and learned from all the self-help motivational gurus.

And they all had one common theme – the empowerment of choosing one’s own thoughts. The Bible calls it, “renewing your mind.” The counseling world calls it, “cognitive behavior therapy.” And motivational gurus simply call it, “positive thinking.” But it all leads to the same place:

Change your thoughts, and you can change your life.

From powerless to empowered

For me, the life-changing moment was learning that I had a choice in how I wrote the story that played out in my mind. I could create my own reality by choosing my thoughts. I could create the movie that would become my life. I was the writer, director, producer and star character in my life’s story.

Learning that I could write my own story was like having a key that unlocked a hidden door into the technicolor land of Oz.

When I learned the keys to a life of empowered thinking, the doors of heaven opened up for me right here on earth.

I discovered a clear sense of purpose for my life, I began doing work that I feel I was born to do. Helpful “coincidences,” started showing up in business and career. New relationships with amazing people seemed to appear out of nowhere both personally and professionally. And old relationships blossomed into deep connections like I’d never experienced before.

Action step

If your life, career or relationships aren’t going your way, start re-writing your life’s story. I have an awesome resource that you can use to help you change your habitual thoughts that are keeping you stuck.

For many people, part of the problem is that their powerless thinking isn’t even conscious. I’ve had many clients say, “wow, I didn’t realize I had a choice.” But once you have that realization, get ready for incredible breakthroughs.

Here’s a worksheet that’s designed to help you increase awareness and make the shift to empowered thinking.

Once you download this free worksheet and begin to use it, I’d love to hear from you. Be sure to come back and visit and leave me a comment!

6 replies
  1. vickie Smith
    vickie Smith says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. My mother lost her mom at 8 and I know her life was so different because of that life change. Looking forward to getting the worksheet.

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    • Marianne Renner
      Marianne Renner says:

      I’m sorry to hear about your mother’s loss. We don’t control what happens to us, but we are fortunate to be able to choose what we do with those experiences. I’m grateful to be able to share my story and inspire others toward lasting change. Thank you for sharing Vickie.

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  2. kathleen
    kathleen says:

    Thank you for the courage to share your story Marianne. It’s very helpful to learn from someone who’s ‘been there’.

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  3. Hannah Bartlett
    Hannah Bartlett says:

    I had no idea you’ve been through those things. Thank you for sharing your story and using it to encourage and empower others!! I have enjoyed following and learning from you.. continue sharing your story!!

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    • Marianne
      Marianne says:

      It’s my pleasure to share Hannah. I’m very grateful to provide tools that can help others live more empowered lives.

      Reply

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